The Language of Dude Feminism

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I’ve always said men shouldn’t think of their mothers, sisters, daughters and wives they should think of themselves. Women are people my friend. Women are people.

The sort of language used to assert men’s dominance over women has a pretty recognizable pattern across the cultural landscape. Men, we are told, are in charge of things because they have something women (supposedly) lack: physical strength, honor, higher cognitive facilities, or the mystique of the male organ itself. Women, sadly “lacking” these qualities, need to be “protected” from the all-consuming lusts of strange men.

This can be spun as noble chivalry, brutal domination, or a playful battle of the sexes, but at the root it’s the same: women are denied the freedoms that men take as a God-given right, assigned subordinate status, and coerced into performative gender roles.

In this dialectic, men’s protective abilities and ravaging urges come from the same place and are both aimed squarely at women. Language, of course, did not create the patriarchy, but language is a powerful method of inscribing the possible, shaping…

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Religion

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It’s been a few day’s since I’ve posted because nothing’s really been getting to me. Today however i think i might post twice. Once on “Religion” the other on climate change. MAYBE.

I’m not religious. Although i do believe in god for personal reasons, I am not religious but all of my friends and family, including my son, are. My fiance, son and pretty much all of my friends are Catholic and i need spell check to spell the word. Their all very good people and, i believe, their religion makes them better then they would have otherwise been.

I was born and raised ATHEIST. I emphasize atheist to give an idea of what i was taught to believe verses what i believe now. From birth to 16 i believed this life is it. This world is it. Your born, you live, you die, you are fertilizer. That’s it. No one to help you out in tough times. No where to go when you die. No one to judge you for who you are. No community of like minded people. It was tough.

It wasn’t tough believing what i did. I had, and have, ample evidence that this is it. There is ZERO proof of a god and even less for his son. I could counter all the “evidence” that any religious person could send my way. Even at 10. I was a smart child who loved the science channel, the learning channel and the discovery channel. Oh and reading, i LOVED to read a good science or history book. I could counter just about anything a religious person said to me using science. Even the way people think can be explained by science. And i LOVED to debate religion when i was atheist. It was one of my favorite past times. But i was ALWAYS respectful. That was another thing my ATHEIST parents taught me. You can wipe the floor with someone and still be civil. I’d counter what they said the bible said, sometimes using the bible itself, sense i had read it more then a lot of the religious people i’d debate. But i was never personal. NEVER. The closest i ever got was telling them point blank they were wrong.

15 years ago i changed. I went from a in your face atheist to what i am now (as far as i know there no word for believing in god and having your own ideas of what that’s all about but not believing in any established religion). Today I am more excepted by people simply because i now say there is a god. That boggles my mind. Other then that one thought i’m no different. I still got all my morals from myself. I still argue with religious people. I still school them on their own religious book. But because i now say there’s an imaginary man in the sky i’m better then before? How?

What does it matter who’s holding me accountable to those around me? Why does it matter to anyone if i hold myself accountable or if some god does? And, really, who wouldn’t want a person who is good because they think they should be good just because over someone who’s being good for a reward? I don’t count charity that’s given specifically for the tax write off as charity. (I don’t think god does either.) So why would i count you as a good person if your only doing it for selfish reasons?

Anyway, there are two reasons i bring this up. One article and one video to be precise.

The article:
Cut It Out, Atheists! Why It’s Time to Stop Behaving like Bill Maher and Richard Dawkins

This kinda annoyed me. I don’t put down the religious. But i don’t blame a single atheist that does. In this country 80% of the population is estimated to be Catholic. That’s a lot of people but atheists are mean. The religious push their beliefs on everyone everyday but atheists are mean. The religious even push their beliefs in our laws but atheists are mean. Every president ever has been religious but atheists are mean. ALL the evidence says their right but atheists are mean. I think it’s mean to beat up a 15 year old girl because she wont tell you her name so you can pray for her. I think it’s mean telling gays that they don’t get the same rights as straights because… GOD, is mean. I think telling a woman she has to use her body as an incubator for a child no one wants because… GOD, is mean. I think telling Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Atheists, Agnostics, non believers, Sikhs and every non Catholic they have to follow the rules of the bible is mean. I don’t think telling someone their stupid for believing something they cant prove is mean.

What really annoys me is that when atheists bash religious people it tends to be the leaders they bash, or some fat guy holding a picket sign in front of Planned Parenthood. From my experience most atheists don’t care one way or the other about the Christen next door. It’s his leader we have a problem with. The Christen next door is usually fine. Even if they believe fucked up shit who cares? The only people they influence is their kids and although that sucks it’s fixable. Their leaders on the other hand are a menace. They spew hatred 24/7 making millions off of making their followers hate everyone different then them.

They say thing’s like:

“I would warn Orlando that you’re right in the way of some serious hurricanes, and I don’t think I’d be waving those flags in God’s face if I were you … It’ll bring about terrorist bombs; it’ll bring earthquakes, tornadoes, and possibly a meteor.”
Pat Robertson

They write articels like this:
Why There Is No Such Thing as a Good Atheist

And they rape boy’s:
U.N. Report: Vatican Policies Allowed Priests To Rape Children

But atheists are the mean ones??? Really?

I’m not trying to say all religious people are bad. In fact i LOVE religious people so much i made one. My 9 year old son is Catholic and i’m ok with that. In fact i encourage it because of all the problems i had growing up. It’s just easier to join them. But i couldn’t.

The Video:

This is my proof that there are good Catholics who will stand up to the bad ones. This is what allows me to go on day after day and not blow my brains out. This man right here, along with my fiance, son and friends let me know that 80% of the country isn’t crazy. That the fundies don’t speak for them all and most of them have hearts and soles. These are the real Christens not the ones who want to take and destroy and i hope more of us can remember that.

Huffington Post :(

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I really do hate the Huffington Post’s comment section. Really i hate it. I’m a top commenter there and make maybe 15 to 20 comments a day but my profile says my last comment was May 15th at 72 comments.
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Oh and for some reason my long posts get deleted.
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Now you see it.

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Now you don’t!

I try getting help from Huffington Post and get an automated response email. This really is annoying.

End of my very privileged, very first world problem post.

Domestic Violance

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On Feb. 15 2014 Ray Rice Hit Janay Palmer, now Janay Rice, so hard he knocked her unconscious.

On Feb. 19 2014 we all got to see Ray Rice Hit Janay Palmer, now Janay Rice, so hard he knocked her unconscious.

On Feb. 21 2014 we’re told how good a guy Ray Rice is and how the couple has a few issues to work out.

On Mar. 24 2014 we are promised that Ray Rice will be back.

On Mar 26 2014 we’re told the NFL isn’t sure if it will punish Rice at all.

On Mar 28 2014 Janay Palmer married Ray Rice and became Janay Rice.

On May 21 2014 Ray Rice was allowed to enter a first time offenders program as opposed to taking him to trial. Under the terms of the deal, if Rice completes a 12-month program and stays out of trouble, the case will not show up on his record.

On May 23 2014 Ray and Janay Rice apologize. Ray for “the situation he and his wife were in.” and Janay for getting hit i would assume.

On July 24 2014 Ray Rice received a suspension of 2 games for hitting a person who’s a third his size so hard she was knocked unconscious.

On Sep 8 2014 the world watched Ray Rice hit Janay Palmer so hard he knocked her unconscious. Rice is also suspended indefinitely by NFL.

On Sep 9 2014 Janay Rice releases a statement through instagram that reads:

“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend,” she wrote. “But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that the media and unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass of for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific.

“THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”

This is where I’ll stop because this is what i want to address.
What Janay doesn’t get is we don’t care about her or her life any more then we care about the abused woman down the street from us. I know that sounds harsh but it’s true. It’s not her getting hit we care about. It’s not Ray Rice hitting her that we care about. What we care about is an NFL player hitting a woman so hard he knocked her out. NFL players are, weather or not they, or we, want it or like it, role models. Our children and even our adults look up to them as though everything they do is perfect. They see these men as what a man should be. They want nothing more then to be these men. So when these men hit a woman our sons learn it’s manly to hit a woman and our daughters learn that as long as you want to be with the big man you have to be ok with being beat. These are not lessons most parents want their children to learn.

I have a 9 year old son. I’m not athletic and neither is he but i’m trying to change that. I feel having a competitive side would be good for him. However i don’t want him to believe that being an athlete means you hit people who are weaker then you are. I don’t want him to grow up thinking masculinity depends on the oppression of women. And i don’t want him to grow up to marry a woman who think’s it’s acceptable to be hit by her boyfriend or husband.

What Janay and all other spouses of abusive public figures don’t understand is we don’t care about them. We don’t care that they are ok with being beaten. We don’t care that you love him. We don’t care that you swear he’ll never do it again. We don’t care if he murders you, any more then we care about any woman murdered by her husband. It’s not about you. It’s about us. Us ALL. It’s about society as a hole being ok with men hitting women. It’s about the lessons our children learn and it’s about paying millions to a person who see’s 50.8% of the american population as a punching bag. When you hit one of us you hit all of us.

We can’t stop Ray Rice from beating Janay Rice since she’s oked it. However we can stop our children from watching this man on TV and stop him from being our children’s role model. That’s what was done when he was fired. He wasn’t fired to hurt her. He wasn’t fired to hurt his family or embarrass them, make them feel alone, take all happiness away from them. We did it to protect our sons and daughters from her and her husband. Let him hit her all he wants and she allows but i will never allow him or anyone like him to be my child’s hero.

GUN CONTROL!

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For my first real post I will be discussing the big, the bad GUN CONTROL. (insert that dun dun daaaa sound here) Well why we need gun control anyway.

I’m not sure what people think of when they think of a responsible cell phone owner. I like to think I’m a responsible cell phone owner. I usually know where it is, I don’t loan it out to people I don’t know and only I know the 4 digit pin number that it needs to be unlocked, and there for used. Hell I don’t really even let my son play with my cell phone.

But you know something. I’ve had my cell phone stolen. I’ve left it at home, work, school, and random stores and restaurants. I leave it sitting on my living room floor. I’ve done the same thing with my purse, wallet(after i got sick of forgetting my purse) and key’s. I’ve done that with every single item I bring with me every where I go. Everyone I know has done that a million times too. So why are gun’s different?

Why do we expect people, who’ve forgotten their key’s when they went to their car, to remember their gun? When my cell phone was stolen out of my car, while I was at work, 5 min’s away from my house, no one was killed. When I leave my car key’s sitting on a public toilet no one get’s injured. I mean, I might not have a car any more but more than likely my stolen car wont hurt anyone but me and it’s my fault anyway. When I lost my wallet the last time I lost all the money I had ($76), my driver’s licence, my debit cards, I lost every thing that was vital to me. But still no one, but me, was hurt because, I’m human and, I lost my possession.

What’s worse is more often than not it’s not that the gun was forgotten, lost or stolen but that it was carried at all that’s the problem. To use the cell phone analogy again. If I have my cell phone in my pocket and my son sticks his hand in my pocket, to get some candy or whatnot, he just might butt dial a friend of mine. Who will answer and laugh their ass off at me. When it’s a gun in someone’s pocket, even a sheriff’s deputy, it’s a different story.

Clay deputy’s son, 2, accidentally fires father’s gun inside Wendy’s; bullet fragments strike boy, 3 others

This is what happens when it’s not a cell phone in your pocket. Now the injury’s weren’t bad. No one died. No one even needed to go to the hospital. But. Two woman who went to a fast food restaurant to spend maybe $12 had a gun go off so close to them they had red marks and scratches. They went in for cheep burgers and left with wounds and the knowledge that they are not safe in Wendy’s. And I’ll just bet ya that the 2 year old’s grandfather now has a little less respect for his son-in-law.

This is just one story of “accidental shooting’s”. I did a Google search for “accidental shooting” and this is what came up.
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16,000 stories just in the “News” section. 16,000. I just had to type that number again. 16,000 news stories about accidental shootings and we still think a person can be a responsible GUN owner.

A person can be a responsible cell phone owner or a responsible car owner. Because even if they do lose them of have them stolen the chance that someone ends up hurt is nearly zero. If I carry a gun with me every where I run the risk of forgetting it, having it stolen or having a 2 year old pull the trigger while looking for candy. Because of that someone might use that gun, in the way it was intended to be used, to kill someone. Why should anyone, but me and the actual shooter, be held responsible? Why is everyone held responsible for an individuals, human, short comings?

It is to easy to become irresponsible with the thing’s we take for granted. It’s easy to take the thing’s we have with us at all times for granted. It doesn’t make sense to have an object that’s only intended purpose is death as an everyday object that you carry with you every where. Because we are human and there for imperfect it is irresponsible to carry a weapon with you at all times. And there for there is no such thing as a responsible daily gun carrier. Maybe there are responsible gun owners we don’t know about because they keep their gun’s safe and there for don’t accidentally shoot their 2 year olds.

A “Social” Introduction.

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Hello🙂

My name is Morgan. I’m 31 years old. I’m a new blogger. Soon i wont be a single mom any more to my 9 year old son. I’m educated but i’m… low income. I’m bipolar. I’m female. I’m agnostic. Basically i’m everything that’s “wrong” with the world. I’m a socialist!

I believe in human rights… for everyone. Gay, straight, trans, queer, black, white, hispanic, muslim, catholic, atheist, male, female. I believe we all deserve equal rights. I believe that the only way to run the world is to put yourself in the shoes of the person you DON’T want treated as well as yourself. I don’t like conservatives. But i still think they should be allowed to vote and get married. I believe their beliefs are inhuman but they aren’t.

My blog will be me reading the news, posting links to the stories i will be commenting on and, of course, my thought and feelings on those articles. I don’t read conservative websites so all my links will be progressive sites and no i wont get a different source for you. You’re more then welcome to add a link but i may not read it depending on the source.

I know this isn’t the most friendly intro but i’m not always that friendly so it works for me.